
If you look up “text bombing” online, you’ll see it defined as a form of cyber attack where someone sends a deluge of non-stop messages. The “text bombing” I’d like to talk about today is much less threatening. I’d like to chat about the texts some of us might get from our kids, or maybe ones I’ve been known to send from time to time. Those texts that scream, “Come quick, I’m in trouble and you need to stop what you’re doing and fix it!”
After having both received and sent a good number of these calls-for-attention, I was thinking that The Pause is the perfect tool to utilize in circumstances like these. Because what I’ve noticed is, if someone is truly in distress, they pick up the phone. Right there, I can often weed out the urgency. So, whether I’m deciding how to respond to one of these messages or deciding if I should send one of these messages, there are three questions I can ask myself.
Let’s start with receiving:
Now, let’s shift to sending one of these texts. Before I tap that arrow I can ask myself three very similar questions:
At the end of the day, when I looked at my serial text bombing behavior, it kind of felt selfish. Because Team, my text aren’t, “Someone’s hurt come quick.” They’re like, “You would not believe what so and so just friggin’ said to me!” And hey, if there is something real that I need to reach out to a loved one to process in the course of a day, by all means, I’m picking up the phone. But now, I try to take a breath before texting, when the only reason I’m reaching out is to get someone else as pissed off as I am about something.
This is why apps like Marco Polo are perfect for emotional people like me. Marco Polo is a free app for sending video messages back and forth with friends. It gives me a place to put my volatile feelings in a recorded message, and then my friend or family member has the ability to watch it when it’s completely convenient for them. I love when I can find ways that technology can restore my serenity rather than confiscate it—and it turns out that all I have to do is exercise my right to PAUSE.
Please be sure to check out some of my other episodes on pausing:
The Pause – This One Thing Has Changed My Entire Life
6 Ways To Avoid Stress – Dodging Stress That I Personally Manufacture
Next week, we’re going to be discussing one sided friendships! Yay!
Have a great rest of your week, and thanks so much for listening~
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