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When Something’s Not Working – Maybe It’s Time to Fix the System, Not Me

March 24, 2023

While in the past I’ve vowed not to cook, I’ve recently had a change of heart. I know; it’s really throwing everyone off. For what’s felt like nine years—but [...]

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What are You REALLY Hungry For? Remembering the Good Feed

January 27, 2023

Martyrdom: Prioritizing Self-Care

As Mom and I were navigating her first week of chemotherapy treatment, I was introduced to Donald Winnecott’s concept of the Good Feed. The Good Feed is the idea [...]

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Lots of Developments – Here’s to Deciding When Seasons Should Change

January 6, 2023

Martyrdom: Prioritizing Self-Care

In my last post, dated May 20, 2022, I quoted Rob Bell saying, “For every season there’s a reason.” I announced that I was going to stop blogging and [...]

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My Way or The Highway – Forcing My Will on The Family

March 4, 2022

This week I was reminded of how much our family life has changed since I stopped expecting our lives to revolve around what works best for me. For many [...]

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Should I Even Bother Giving if I Can’t Give With Love? My Foolproof Giving Meter

February 18, 2022

While recovering from knee surgery, I’ve realized how horrible it feels when someone acts stressed, annoyed, or put out while helping me. On the other hand, when people offer [...]

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If I Love Wasting Time, Why Don’t I Waste More Time?

February 4, 2022

Martyrdom: Prioritizing Self-Care

Wasting time was something I never used to allow myself to do. I just didn’t feel like I could afford to do it. Not to mention, for someone who [...]

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‘Tis the Season – The Circle of Taking and Giving

December 17, 2021

What is with my strange compulsion of needing to “repay” people the moment they do something kind for me? I often don’t even take the time to be grateful [...]

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Monkey See, Monkey Do – If I Don’t Know What It Looks Like, I Can’t Do It

November 26, 2021

Martyrdom: Prioritizing Self-Care

Years ago, I got one of our toddlers fully dressed and put them in front of the TV so I could get ready. When I returned, all their clothes [...]

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Trying to Prove Myself – Where it Gets Me and What I Can Do About It

September 24, 2021

Martyrdom: Prioritizing Self-Care

The big discovery I’ve made during my time off this summer is in regard to the amount of time and energy I spend trying to prove myself to those [...]

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To What Length Are You Willing to Go For Your Serenity?

July 23, 2021

That question was posed to me last week. Last week when, due to the rainstorm in the northeast, I was managing a lot of extra bologna on my plate. [...]

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