TeamConfessioners! Today I’d like to confess—I happen to be one of those people who constantly thinks about every single person I’ve ever met. Seriously, all day long I’m thinking about my family, friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, neighbors, clients, people I met in grammar school—you name them, I’ve probably thought about them in the last month. Because these people always pop into my head, sometimes I feel like that’s a sign to connect with them. The thing is Team, I don’t think they all want to hear from me.

One thing I observed early in life was that often the folks who complained about not hearing from others were the same exact people who didn’t pick up the phone to reach out in the first place. I knew I didn’t want to be that person. But, several years back I realized that I was becoming tired of being the only one to initiate contact with some people in my life. I guess for a long time I didn’t realize how much one-sided relationships were draining me. But once I recognized the pattern, I made a decision to stop chasing people.

That doesn’t mean I won’t leave a quick voicemail or call occasionally. But if I’m always the one making the ‘first call’ or I don’t hear back, I don’t take it personally—I just assume they’d rather be left alone, and I move on. 

While now I devote the majority of my social time to people who reciprocate a connection with me, there is a reason I held on to these unbalanced formulas for so long. Team, I feel moved to let people know that someone out there is thinking about them. That there’s someone in the world who sees their struggles, their fears, and their strengths. I reach out because I want them to feel heard, understood, and loved.

Well, all I gotta say is: Hopefully they’re listening to this podcast right now, because I’m not gonna call ya again! No, really! Well, probably, almost definitely, in all likelihood, never ever going to call you again….maybe.

Next week we’re going to talk about how to make parenting easier! Does this sound intriguing? Then, please tune in next week to hear all about it. Thanks so much for taking the time to tune in today and, as always, thank you for listening~